Age 50, What I Would Tell My 30 Year Old Self
Awww 30, ask me about the age of 30 at age 20 and I would have said one word… “old”.Now in the blink of an eye, two decades later, 30 seems young.Almost immature.My son was only 2, I was still married to his dad and I have moved seven times since then.I feel settled now beginning my 50's.Remarried! This time to a man who will go the distance with me.I wake up each day with hope and excitement to do the things I love.Setting daily intentions in the morning and reflecting on gratitude in the eveningsMuch has happened in between these 20 years…I have grownLooking back here are 5 things I wish I could have told my 30-year-old self…1. FIVE YEARS 5 MINUTE RULEIf it’s not going to matter in five years, don’t give five minutes of worry time.So many things I worried about really didn’t matter even in a week’s time.I had a lot on my plate back then, I wish I could have picked my battles more wisely.Learning which battles to pick is key.2. I can’t control the futureBig life lesson for me.Giving up control was huge.I thought I had my future all planned out. I planned it all out…I was married, had a healthy baby, built our dream home, a nice car, and a good life… until it all shattered down before me.Beyond my control…Life “happens”, without asking us…3. I AM stronger than I knowNot knowing the uphill battle I would be facing, I never would have predicted what I truly was capable of.Looking back I am proud of the things I have done and accomplished4. Everyone has a day oneOh, how I was scared to try new things.I was a horrible beginner, so full of “pride”If only I had sucked it up and started when I was 30!Now at age 50, I am no longer scared to go for the things I really enjoy in life, even if it means I am at day one, starting out… amateur.Some day I will be 70! Thankful I started when I did.5. Not all friends are long-term, some are just a chapterI have been brokenhearted more times than I can count by relationships that didn’t go the extra mile.Friends that didn’t give equal to the time and support I had.I have come to terms with the idea that these friends are “seasonal” not “lifers”.And it’s okay.I am sure that people come in and out of our lives for reasons.It’s part of our journey.It makes us who we are today….One through Five! Growth is part of growing up and becoming wiser.I am blessed to still be walking this earth even in unchartered waters.